Being stuck and self-sabatoge has been a common report as of late from folks I work with. Stuck at work, stuck in life, stuck in not knowing what’s next, just plain stuck.

Being stuck doesn’t feel so hot. Nor does the self-sabotage game. So here are two things you can do right now to get out of the quicksand.

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The Conventional Way: Scarcity. You are screwed up.

Before I knew what personal development was, I was reading and working on myself. I was always looking for ways to be better. I immersed myself in leadership books from Steven Covey to Scott Peck’s The Road Less Traveled.

I was not totally happy and these books offered something in the way of self-improvement. They offered to solve my unhappiness problem.

Years later I would attend a Buddhist inspired graduate school to deeply study myself and to study psychology so as to be more effective in working with others. Part of the core curriculum was meditation. In my very first meditation class the instructor, Dale Asrael said something I will never forget.

She pointed out that Read more…

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June 21 marked our half-way point in the 108-day Personal Revolution training. It was a big milestone as the men had spent time in solitude and self-reflection. It was also the Solstice, the longest day of the year and in many traditions a time to honor and celebrate the sun and abundance of life.  Yet another reason to celebrate my life!

What about you? What is your relationship to fun, play, and celebration?

I was never much on celebration. My old man taught me Read more…

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Ever since I was a little kid, I would escape the house, go outside, climb a tree and listen to the wind. I found solace in nature, even if it was only in my backyard.

Although it would often intensify my loneliness, it somehow helped. Years later I would trek into the wilds alone for self-reflection. There I would ask big questions. There I might solve problems or attempt to figure out what painful emotion I was experiencing.

Sometimes I was running away from something. Other times I was running toward something.

After college I traveled to Central America alone to “find myself.” Running the same patterns and having no real mentor, I wound up Read more…

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